Wednesday, March 11, 2009

The Difficult Mark

We live in a “mind your own business” world, and sadly enough this is the dominant attitude even in churches today. If a church member gets tired of his wife or her husband and runs out to find a new one, in our day the expectation is that the church certainly doesn’t agree with that, but…what can we do? So we do nothing. If a “member” desires to come to church on Easter and Christmas and never come the rest of the year, and they want to live like the world, then we should pray for them - but we should never be so cold, arrogant and unloving as to say anything to them. The world would tell us that our religious beliefs and our faith is “personal”. This attitude comes from a total misunderstanding of my last post on membership. If a person doesn’t understand what being a “member" of a church means, they will not understand what discipline means. One of my favorite lines in “What is a Healthy Church” is when Dever states: “Membership draws a boundary line around the church, marking the church off from the world. Discipline helps the church that lives inside of that boundary line stay true to the very things that are cause from drawing the line in the first place.” Now, before I speak to this subject one of my dearest and most respected friends in the ministry just wrote on a very similar subject to this on his blog; you can find this at

This difficult mark of discipline is frowned upon in our “anything goes” society. Our society believes that everyone should be able to do what feels right to them without fear that someone would have something to say about it. We even see it in the prevalent parenting skills taught today – be their friend but don’t correct them. But we need to remember two things: (1) Not all discipline is negative: When we hear discipline we always think of correction or a spanking. However, I believe every one of us would agree that there is a need for discipline in our lives. This positive discipline or “formative discipline” serves much the same way as braces on teeth, or reminding your children to chew with their mouths closed. You know, the things that shape you. From a spiritual perspective every sermon, every truth of Scripture we have encountered could be part of our formative discipline. (2) Negative discipline is positive: I have two boys and they each have characteristics of both Michele and me – but unfortunately, the most dominant characteristic they have is our sin nature! Because of that, there are times we must discipline them. I do not enjoy it - I do not desire it. In fact my life would be easier many times if I just ignored their misbehavior. But the most selfish, arrogant thing I can do is to let them do what they want. If I were to choose to ignore their sin, by my silence I am approving of it! But, I am also thinking of my comfort over theirs and I am thinking that my way is better than what the Word of God has instructed me to do. Now if this is true in my family life, this is also true in the local family of God. The Church is commanded to be set apart: believers are to live holy lives….how do we do this in our sin nature if we are not held accountable by other believers in our Church? Discipline, as with parenting, reminds me that boundaries are consistent and real and that when I cross those acceptable boundaries, I need to reign it in and get back to what I know I should be doing.

Very few people will discuss Matthew 18, Luke 17, 1st Corinthians 5 and 6. But they will run to Matthew 7:1 “Judge not that you be not judged” but that certainly doesn’t prohibit all types of judging. In fact reading this chapter we see there is a righteous kind of judgment. Even looking at Matthew 7:6 I must make a judgment as to the difference between dogs and swine and that of true believers. In Scripture he has given the power to the state to judge (Rom. 13:1-7). He intends for believers to judge ourselves (1st Corinth.11:28, Heb. 4, 2nd Pet. 1:5-10). The Church is to judge (Matt.18, 1st Corinth. 5-6). This should not surprise us, after all if we can’t say how a child of God should not live, then we certainly have no right to say how a child of God should live. In order for us to glorify God as His body we must be able to show a distinction between the church and the world. The idea of holding one another accountable is not new; in fact, Pre-Civil War Southern Baptist excommunicated nearly 2 percent of their membership every year. Just so you know…during this same time frame Southern Baptist churches grew at TWICE the rate of the population growth. Certainly this issue could turn into abuse, or be self serving. But to be fair, every thing the church is called to do could turn into abuse. This is precisely why we need one another. This is the reason the church is involved in this - after all, it is called church discipline not staff or deacon discipline. The key is doing this with brokenness, understanding the need for the cross during this process. The goal of the church is always restoration.

I certainly can’t write all there is to write on this blog but I am going to close with the 5 reasons Dever states discipline should be done:

1. The good of the disciplined individual: 1st Cor. 5:1-5, this man was lost in his sin, thinking God approved of his having an affair with his father’s wife. The Church had to respond to this.

2. For the good of other believers: 1st Tim. 5:20

3. For the health of the church as a whole: 1st Corinth. 5:6-8

4. For the witness of the church: This is a tool for evangelism. 1st Corinth. 5:1,
1st Pet. 2:12

5. For the glory of God. Our holiness should reflect God’s holiness: Eph. 5:25-27, Heb. 12:10-14

Now understanding that the Word of God speaks to this, this doesn’t make discipline the focal point of the church any more than taking an antibiotic becomes the focal point of life. But it is needed in all our lives. It is good to know that God has put us around other believers to help our walk and help us glorify him. We can’t let the Enemy use the extreme cases to cause us to disregard the Word of God. As a church we must love one another enough to exhort, encourage and, when necessary rebuke using the Word of God and the wonderful gift of Grace He first gave us!

1 comment:

Steve said...

Bro Chad,

I am Steve Waldrip we had a few minutes of fellowship when I brought my Music Ministry to "Young At Heart" March 3.

I will have to admit after meeting you and reading your blog I am proud to see that Desoto Country has been blessed with a Leader such as yourself. Someone not being afraid to speak the truth in the word of God. We truly need more Pastors like you.

Thank you for not holding back and for feeding your members and readers the true bread of life, and not watering down the the word just to to please man. We need more Leaders like you!

My Prayers Are With You Daily
Steve Waldrip
Steve Wade Music Ministries