Questions for a Godly Wife to Ask Her Husband

Well ladies, now it is your turn. The questions for the men were on the previous blog and now we have some for you. If you have never asked your spouse questions like this before, it can be uneasy and even scary. After all, you may read these and think: “I really don’t even want him/her to answer this!” But the best thing you can do when asking things like this, is simply let them answer and thank them for their honesty. The worse thing we can do is explain why we act a certain way, or “defend” our actions. Remember, you are asking and, usually because no one likes correction, your spouse is going to try avoiding the answer or not giving “the real answer,” but something easier. Just thank them and love them - our desire as Christian men and women should be to better glorify Christ. Our spouse is given to us as a gift, to help us better glorify God. Are you ready ladies?


- What is something I can do that makes you feel loved by me?

- What are some things I can say in front of our children that would make you feel respected and honored?

- How can I make your time when you come home from work more restful and relaxing?

- What are some things I say or do that make you feel like I am being disrespectful?

- What is your desired expectation for physical intimacy?

- How can I spiritually encourage you?

- How can I best care for you when you are discouraged?

- What is the best way to approach you if I feel our schedule is out of control?

- How can I support you in the discipleship of our children?


You can read the entire post at: http://practicalshepherding.com/2011/06/06/what-are-some-questions-a-wife-can-ask-her-husband-to-know-how-to-encourage-him/

Great Questions You May Not Want to Ask, But Should!

In the past, I have shared some of the questions that I will ask our boys periodically during our family worship. Our boys have created some questions that they have asked us about themselves, which I may get them to compile for a future blog. I believe asking questions about what people closest to us see in our lives, and letting them reply freely without giving a great deal of feedback, is helpful. We can not and should not trust our own eyes to see blind spots and sin. A few weeks ago I sent our staff the link below, as just some questions to talk through with their wives. Because this particular blog is written for Pastors, I sifted through the questions and just wanted to suggest some for our men to ask their wives. On the next blog, I will have the top questions wives should ask their husbands. I hope you don’t just read these – but really take some time and ask these. Your marriage will be better for it!


-What can I do to make you feel loved and appreciated by me?

- What can I do to make you feel like I enjoy being with you more than anyone else?

- What are some things I can do to encourage you, spiritually?

- What can I do to help relieve the stress of life responsibilities?

- How can I best serve you in dealing with our children?

- What can I do to heighten your desire for physical intimacy?

- What can I do to make you feel our family is the priority over work?

- What can I do to help you grow in a love to serve our church?

- What kinds of moments when our family is together do you cherish the most?

The entire blog can be seen here: http://practicalshepherding.com/2011/05/25/what-questions-can-a-husband-ask-his-wife-to-encourage-needed-discussions/